Wednesday, November 17, 2010

CS Discussion // I'll Be Moving On.. But When?

Earlier this week while browsing through one of my favorite "work" blogs because the gubment hasn't blocked it yet, I ran across a post that singer, Monica and her man friend, Shannon Brown are now engaged. Congrats to the happy couple! *side eye*

*takes deep breath* I will say, without saying, that I'm going through some major life changes right now. As stated in the Randomness At Best post, I've done a lot of growing up in the past couple of weeks. And quite frankely, I'm feeling real "Nina Moseley-never-make-the-same-mistake-twice-ish" right about now.

After reading the article on Monica, it made me think: what exactly is considered too soon when getting involved again. When will it be too soon to do whatever it is I may want to do. (LOL, yeah I'm really "beating around the bush" on this one, huh? But you can follow right?). I don't know what all went down between Monica and what his face, nor do I care, but from my point of view, it seems like she moved really fast with this Shannon guy. It seems just like yesterday she was happy and in love on her reality show, and now she's at this point.

Honestly, I can't even take the thought of jumping, so soon, into another relationship after getting out of such a long term relationship. How do you give someone so much of your life and jump, skip, hop, fall in love, so quickly after its over? (Yeah, I been watching a lot of LoveJones lately)

So, here are the questions that ran through my head:

Why so soon?
Aren't you scared that his "evils" may be worst than the last?
When do you say, "Ok, I'm ready to move on"?
Did you grow in your time alone?
Did you change your "standards" with the new guy?

Ugh... I could go on and on.. those are only a few questions, but quite frankly...(at a lost for words here) I just don't know.. I just had to get that off my chest.

Let me know what you think CS, by leaving a comment below!

Blogger Templates


  1. So true, how does one decide and know when it's best to move on? I myself struggled with that when going thru my divorce. I still felt and acted as if I was still married, partly due to the fact that I was still dis-engaging myself from "married mode". Also, the feelings that I had for my ex took a lil time to get over. I guess some get over things fast, but on;y that person knows truly how they feel!

  2. Late on this one, but three snaps girl! I just had this convo with a guy friend last week. I feel like men just hop from relationship to relationship with no problem which makes me feel that there was no emotional attachment to begin with and thus what was the relationship built on? It's odd when women behave this way b/c we tend to be more attached to our relationships. Idk about Monica, but I'm all for taking it slow, ppl can change at the drop of a dime so you need to make sure you KNOW that person before you marry them.